Definition of a Perfect Marriage?
It’s a fable. It’s a fairy story. Of course there isn’t any such thing as a perfect marriage. Such a thing does not exist. Even when a couple seems to have a “perfect” marriage, there are always behind-the-scene problems we don’t know about—and some even they don’t know about.
The best example I can think of would be my friends Jack and Bonnie. They hold hands everywhere they go and stick together like glue. They are always so lovey-dovey. But as it turns out, Jack’s secretary gives him blowjobs at work. He even sneaks her out of town with him now and then to occupy adjoining rooms while he attends business conferences. Lucky guy. I wish I had his expense account.
Maybe the ideal marriage is an otherwise happy couple with an open marriage. I know a few couples like that whose relationship has survived a decade or more. Oh yeah, open marriage horrifies a lot of people, but I’d much prefer it to a dead marriage, which is what I have. The biggest difference is that people in open marriages have mastered that evil monster called Jealousy. Apparently, they have learned how to have love and friendship (and maybe even sex) with one another without demanding ownership.
I’ve said it too many times: Monogamy sucks. However, it’s only the monogamy requirement that sucks. Two people who voluntarily want to keep sex just between the two of them can be perfectly happy…as long as it lasts. So, part of a perfect marriage would be where both people are happy and can agree on whether either or both have the privilege of outside sexual relations. And/or have the option to renegotiate it when necessary.
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